You Can’t Always Be On The “Right Side”

It’s noteworthy that countless persons around the world still claim to be on the “right side”, even when the truth is so glaring.

The phenomenon is indeed not peculiar to any particular country. It suffices to say that it is ubiquitous as far as the global community is concerned. Hence, no society or entity is exempted while discussing the existence of such a lifestyle that has succeeded in maiming most relationships.

The ‘I’m right’ syndrome has continued to endanger various healthy relationships. The paradox is that most of these staggering or pale-looking relationships were rightly built on a golden pedestal. But the inability to show remorse by any of the party involved, having erred, continually poses threat to the anticipated growth of the union.

Allowing your extremism mentality to control your actions would definitely make any relationship you are into crash on arrival. You aren’t supposed to strongly believe in everything. Don’t live the life of a fanatic. Sometimes, compromise is highly consequential, especially when it calls for a way forward.

Relationships are about compromise or sacrifice. Hence, you must be willing at all times to give up on a certain ideology just for peace to reign. If your ego is the problem, you must sacrifice it to enable other things you yearn for to flow. It’s noteworthy that ego had abruptly ended countless enticing unions than death did.

You must, therefore, be willing to give up that venom in your system that is unabated, posing a threat to your cherished relationship. One thing must give way to the other.

It’s always crucial to acknowledge that everybody can never be right at the same time. Someone must be wrong. And when you are right or wrong, your conscience will certainly communicate to you concerning where you belong. It suffices to assert that you are invariably expected to listen to the aforementioned feature (conscience), because it is the only tool that can lead you to the apt path.

Even when you are right, you can assume that you are wrong just for the sake of a way forward. It’s simply like a battlefield where someone must accept defeat. This is where maturity comes in. Honestly, it takes a mature mindset to keep a relationship going or alive. Maturity is like lubrication oil in any ongoing union.

Similarly, immaturity in a relationship is not unlike a bad tyre in a moving vehicle. The latter can never move properly until you change the former. And if the driver tries to manage the situation, it would surely draw the journey backwards; hence, he will never arrive at his proposed destination. Aside from not getting to the destination, it might even cause an accident in the process.

So, maturity is one of the key recipes in any relationship in existence, be it business, friendship, courtship, marriage, or what have you. It would make us possess a flexible mindset rather than a rigid one, thereby keeping us away from the dangers of fanaticism.

The said pattern of ideology (fanaticism) possesses venom that bears the potential of destroying, within a twinkle of an eye, what a man has suffered in building for years.

For crying out loud, you can’t continue to say ‘I am right’ even when aware that you’re wrong. Don’t cheat on your conscience if you truly want your relationship to excel. There are definitely no two ways about it.

‘I am sorry’ doesn’t really mean you are wrong. It rather means you truly cherish the relationship more than your ego. Hence, we either as an individual or group must be invariably ready to tender that apology just for peace’s sake.

The fact remains that you can’t always be on the right side. But even if you are truly wrong, you ought to be willing to shift ground for the wellbeing of the existing relationship.